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| Black couple in love |
A very good Read! Please take a couple of
minutes and read! You might learn one or two things from this. #winks
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do
I know if I am with the right person?"
The speaker at the seminar then noticed that
there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that
your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you
know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's
weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship
has a CYCLE… In the beginning; you fall in love with
your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their
idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why
it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was
swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just
standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling
in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or
years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of
EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother
(if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your
spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of
this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference
between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might
start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the
euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with
someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is
not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their
unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in
all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes
people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies
within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in
love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd
be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen
carefully to this):
The key to
succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to
love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is
not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day
out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands
WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical
laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore
a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who
walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you
let stay, and who you refuse to let GO..
CREDITS
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